With the Blogging From A to Z April Challenge completed, I am back to my normal blogging schedule. Well, whatever that is going to be--still figuring it out, bear with me. :) Today is the first Wednesday of the month. What does that mean?
Insecure Writer's Support Group! Yay! On to the post...
I listened to the book "The of Year of Living Biblically: One Man's Humble Quest to Follow the Bible as Literally as Possible" by A.J. Jacobs. There's a part in it that totally relates to me, possibly to all writers, and most assuredly to everyone in the world who is creative, or Homo sapiens, for that matter.
The part of the book discusses the commandment "Thou Shalt Not Covet." Or for this post's purposes, coveting others' writing. Or publishing deals. Or they write better than you. Or they appear to have more energy than you; therefore they can pop out 50 books in a year. As opposed to your one, if that. Or that they smell better than you, have better looking teeth than you, have prettier fingernails than you, are more fashionable than you. Or...
Suffice it to say: THE LIST IS NEVER ENDING and is nonsensical and irrational at best.
So this post is about: Thou Shalt Not Covet . . . Other Writers.
I can't speak for other writers, but I'm assuming you (ok, all writers--you know who you are) have coveted other writers. Just raise your hand. I admit it, I have! I will continue to, I'm sure of it, even if I am happy for their accomplishment.
But, I think we should step back and realize that, by golly, you are the best person to write your book. I am the best person to write my books. Yes, others might be farther along than you or better at a laundry list of writing skills, but it's the journey that counts. And I am glad for the journey. It has been a ride never to forget. I'm not done. We will get there, wherever there is. And life is good.
Here's a method that has helped me: I read a couple chapters from one of my books that I'm not currently working on. It helps me realize that I really am good at writing. Stepping away from a work in progress distances me from my critical nature toward it. Delving into just a brief part of something else, without critiquing it, helps. It gets me back in the game and a positive mind set.
What are your thoughts on this subject? Have you ever coveted other writers? What has been your I-need-to-cool-down-and-realize-I'm-a-pretty-darn-good-writer method(s)? How can we get over feeling like we suck because another writer got a publishing deal or agent and you didn't?